Divorced Parents Actions

Divorced Parents' Actions

Shortly after her parents got a divorce, 4-year old Heather began having nightmares and night terrors.
When she told her mother about the dreams, she related scary stories of ferocious animals chasing her.
Following Joey's parents' divorce, he cried more frequently and was more aggressive with other children at his day care center.
Such reactions are common in young children when a divorce takes place and the child's stable world is shattered. But it is usually parental conflict that causes children to experience distress in the months just before and just after a divorce.
Statistics show at least three quarters of all divorced parents are very and angry and bitter with each other following a divorce.This means a majority of children living through divorces are exposed to the hostility and anger of their parents.
There is increasing evidence that the well-being of children following divorce depends on the presence or absence of this conflict and hostility. And whether the conflict is expressed through shouting, hitting, bitterness, court battles or cold hostility, it almost always leads to behavioral problems and psychological distress for children.
It is not, we've come to find out, the divorce itself that creates problems for children, but how the adults handle the problems of separation and coexistence as parents of children that makes the critical difference.